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When did we stop being happy? was it when we grew up? was it when we realized that our parents don’t love us for who we are? Or perhaps it was when we grew a brain!
When did we lose the spark for life, the trust in the simplicity of happiness, the faith that something good will come along...? I look around me and I see all the people I grew up with, the ones who used to spread around their happiness, the ones whose smiles were contagious, what happened to us?
Sometimes I sit and think that it was us but everything else but. It could be the traffic jam at every intersection, or the cancer staged victims on our cigarette packs. Maybe it’s all the politics and wars...no wait, that happens all the time.
So maybe it’s just me...maybe I’m the one who grew up and finally found myself sad and alone, found myself doubting the teachings of Sunday school, and wondering to myself “well how exactly does Darwin and Adam and Eve fit together”? Was it the parting mother or the cheating father or was it all just me? Was it the bad schools or the great books or was it the car crash I had 4 and a half years ago.
Whatever it is, I just don’t know why we’re not happy anymore...or at least I’m not as happy as i used to be. Where did the spark go, or where did the positivity in all my thinking leak to? Desperately trying to regain some of it all i”m left with are my pretenses, as false as my smiles.
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Vijay
Oct 25 2008
Kota,
India
Feel it,its still around you.
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(Global Perspectives)
Hello my friend and thanks for this touching and honest piece. Typical you, and it’s great.
As you’ve been frank enough to show us this little corner of who you are, we owe it to be frank with you. ”We” means your friends here. You have many of them.
There is an english expression which says ”When the going gets tough, the tough get going”. It’s all we can do, but we owe it to ourselves to do it. Things aren’t always easy, but, believe me, what you are feeling right now will not last.
Things will change for the better, inevitably. When you’re down, the only way is up, my friend. And ”up” exists, it’s there and will know how to wait for you.......
As you’ve been frank enough to show us this little corner of who you are, we owe it to be frank with you. ”We” means your friends here. You have many of them.
There is an english expression which says ”When the going gets tough, the tough get going”. It’s all we can do, but we owe it to ourselves to do it. Things aren’t always easy, but, believe me, what you are feeling right now will not last.
Things will change for the better, inevitably. When you’re down, the only way is up, my friend. And ”up” exists, it’s there and will know how to wait for you.......
(Global Perspectives)
I dunno Michael, is the only way up? because sometimes it seems like it can always get worse and like the grass is just not green period!
It might make me tougher, but who said i wanna be tough! I’ve had enough tough, u know?
It might make me tougher, but who said i wanna be tough! I’ve had enough tough, u know?
(Local Perspectives)
Oh yeah, I know alright....
It will get worse until it can’t get any worse. This may sound cold (and I know that words are cheap, but, believe me, I’ve been there too) but it’s just mechanical. It’s as inevitable as the sun coming up tomorrow.
You may be unable to see it now, that’s normal. But you will see it my friend.
As you say, it’s the hangin’ on in there and being tough that’s such a drag. It’s tiring, it’s exhausting, it’s nothing but negative.....and it will not last forever.............
It will get worse until it can’t get any worse. This may sound cold (and I know that words are cheap, but, believe me, I’ve been there too) but it’s just mechanical. It’s as inevitable as the sun coming up tomorrow.
You may be unable to see it now, that’s normal. But you will see it my friend.
As you say, it’s the hangin’ on in there and being tough that’s such a drag. It’s tiring, it’s exhausting, it’s nothing but negative.....and it will not last forever.............
(Global Perspectives)
Hi Sarah,
You ask a question that has eluded many.
Happiness is a state of mind which cannot be found in the past but need to be lived in the present.
We all are living a lonely life but very few admit on its face.
To find happiness, do what you love to do, you wanted to do. At least that what I try to do :)
You ask a question that has eluded many.
Happiness is a state of mind which cannot be found in the past but need to be lived in the present.
We all are living a lonely life but very few admit on its face.
To find happiness, do what you love to do, you wanted to do. At least that what I try to do :)
(Global Perspectives)
I guess it’s when you know what you love to do, and you just can’t do it, that’s when all you find is unhappiness.
On the radio a couple of nights back, they were asking about the definition of happiness, and you know what i think? It’s when i’ll stop telling myself lies before I go to bed...”I’ll be ok”, or ”it will all be better tomorrow”, ”I’m happy”...
I Guess life is just not easy.
On the radio a couple of nights back, they were asking about the definition of happiness, and you know what i think? It’s when i’ll stop telling myself lies before I go to bed...”I’ll be ok”, or ”it will all be better tomorrow”, ”I’m happy”...
I Guess life is just not easy.
(Local Perspectives)
What is life without few challenges?
Even if you failed, the least you can say yourself is I tried. It is better than not trying at all.
You know sometimes it is better not know, than to know everything. Be a fool who just lives his life, than to be wise who question every move.
BTW, have you heard about the 99 cent club, even though you 99 cents with you, you still run after that 1 cent that would make it 100.
Then we ask ourselves should we be happy or sad?
Even if you failed, the least you can say yourself is I tried. It is better than not trying at all.
You know sometimes it is better not know, than to know everything. Be a fool who just lives his life, than to be wise who question every move.
BTW, have you heard about the 99 cent club, even though you 99 cents with you, you still run after that 1 cent that would make it 100.
Then we ask ourselves should we be happy or sad?
(Global Perspectives)
this piece makes me think alot,it has made me think if iam really happy or not,it has made me assess my life before and now,and yes,this post brings out alot of feelings,those of a lost childhood,adulthood full of pretending stints and a life that one must live,that life that fate decides.
Thanks for the Post Sarah,it has been an eye opener to me.
Thanks for the Post Sarah,it has been an eye opener to me.
(Global Perspectives)
It was an eye opener to me too Duncan..
Sometimes I like to think it’s not fate it’s us...it’s all us...but even that idea has lost it’s stance.
Sometimes I like to think it’s not fate it’s us...it’s all us...but even that idea has lost it’s stance.
(Local Perspectives)
Please Sarah get out of this depression,Life is beautiful,just remember to see the tiny happy things instead of running after elusive bigger ones. It is quite natural to be in the yo-yo of life but so what, everyone comes out of it.
(Global Perspectives)
I wish it was so simple, to just GET OUT of depression, and I won’t call it depression to start with, because well, I’m not depressed, I’m just not happy...I’m not suicidal I’m just not excited about living, I’m not running after elusive bigger things, trust me, a tiny happy thing would do just fine right now.
The yo-yo of life is quite natural I agree, but when you reach a point when the ups and downs feel quite the same, it doesn’t apply to the ’so what’ criteria.
The yo-yo of life is quite natural I agree, but when you reach a point when the ups and downs feel quite the same, it doesn’t apply to the ’so what’ criteria.
(Local Perspectives)
when i started my career i wanted to own the world & was prepared to stoop to any level as it clashed with my value system also the amount of stress was much more than my system could handle i started suffering from extended depression
i did not want to have some serious disease or be in asylum so i decided to do what i enjoyed & went back to a laid back life style
i am not recommending that but worked for me
i am not a financial success but can meet my needs
am not jealous of any one nor do i compete with any one save my self i do try to excel in any thing i do but that is all
i am prepared to meet death any day it is ready for me
not that i have any choice
i did not want to have some serious disease or be in asylum so i decided to do what i enjoyed & went back to a laid back life style
i am not recommending that but worked for me
i am not a financial success but can meet my needs
am not jealous of any one nor do i compete with any one save my self i do try to excel in any thing i do but that is all
i am prepared to meet death any day it is ready for me
not that i have any choice
(Global Perspectives)
That might have alot to do with it Shiv, I agree, sometimes your system just can’t handle it anymore, but sometimes ’going back’ to what you enjoy is no longer an option.
But I like what you decided to do, and I promise myself to try really hard and do it too...
But I like what you decided to do, and I promise myself to try really hard and do it too...
(Local Perspectives)
Happiness deserts us when we have more responsibilities on our shoulders and we are not able to fulfill our responsibilities due to one reason or another. The more we take the burden of expectancy upon our shoulders, the unhappier we become.
(Global Perspectives)
You’re right, but sometimes responsibilities are not actually ours, they’re just things we fall into doing and taking care of, and some of those things I don’t think are my job, and I just want to stop doing them.
(Local Perspectives)
Great post Sarah. Things do get messy at times, but it’s up to us to find the good things in life, the hope to keep us going... Thanks for the entry :)
(Global Perspectives)
Thank you for sharing it with me Wa’d
(Local Perspectives)
We can be always happy if we don't let our eyes and heart overlooks the small joys of life in trying to achieve greater happiness in terms of money, love, security, luxuries etc. We have to seek happiness in small joys of life.
(Global Perspectives)
Again As i said before Lutful, right now, the small joys in life would do just fine.
(Local Perspectives)
Again As i said before Lutful, right now, the small joys in life would do just fine.
(Local Perspectives)
I’m feeling it too Sarah.
My last posts have been nothing but rage, gloom, dispondence and disdain.
I feel like a multiple personality victim..I flip back and forth between hope and hoplessness.
I’m not happy, not suicidal..just fed up and tired.
Why can’t the world see what we see, why can’t there be change?
My last posts have been nothing but rage, gloom, dispondence and disdain.
I feel like a multiple personality victim..I flip back and forth between hope and hoplessness.
I’m not happy, not suicidal..just fed up and tired.
Why can’t the world see what we see, why can’t there be change?
(Global Perspectives)
Hi Sarah,
The day you start separating happiness from sorrows and try grabbing it as a precious and rare thing, you have lost your happiness!
Ironical but true - happiness flourishes when amidst sorrows, and fades away when
it is put on a pedestal. Never over-emphasize it, it is inversely proportional to the attention it gets. Just notice it walking besides you, try hoarding it and it will run away from you, leaving only the gloomy sorrows behind.
I know I am confusing too many people here, but If I say what I don’t want to, and stay away from speaking my mind- I’ll be an unhappy man.
So I better confuse others than lose my happiness.
The day you start separating happiness from sorrows and try grabbing it as a precious and rare thing, you have lost your happiness!
Ironical but true - happiness flourishes when amidst sorrows, and fades away when
it is put on a pedestal. Never over-emphasize it, it is inversely proportional to the attention it gets. Just notice it walking besides you, try hoarding it and it will run away from you, leaving only the gloomy sorrows behind.
I know I am confusing too many people here, but If I say what I don’t want to, and stay away from speaking my mind- I’ll be an unhappy man.
So I better confuse others than lose my happiness.
(Global Perspectives)
Hi Sarah...The day I stopped chasing happiness, happiness started chasing me
(Global Perspectives)
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